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Post by stitchdup on Oct 18, 2016 6:52:44 GMT -7
I'm very pee'd off with my family. They have gone behind my back and arranged to put my gran into a care home for 2 weeks from saturday because some of them are going on holiday. They do very little to help anyway, and between the 3 aunts and uncles, and 8 cousins they wont spare a few hours to visit, 3 of them literally live 5 minutes away, and instead of popping in when they're out a walk they changed their route so they now walk across a muddy field instead of walking by the house. Instead of actually doing something to help they have conspired behind my back to put her away until they get back, and have bs'd people into thinking they do something, when they only do if there are other people about so they look good. I've spent the last years pretty much single handed looking after her, without more than a week to myself unless she's in hospital (they visit every day then cos there's people to see it), until this year when I said I needed some time at my own house. So instead of the 11 lazy b*****ds getting together to arrange something to help, they have decided to pack her off to a home on the other side of the island, so I cant even visit without taking 3 different buses, and wasting half the day hanging around waiting on the next bus. I'm just sickened by them, they've left it to me to say to my gran that this is happening so I'll be the the a-hole and not them. I could thump every one of the self centered gits. They must have been arranging this for weeks cos there's no way it could have been done in a day. I really hope karma bites each and every one of them in the keister, they deserve it
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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2016 7:13:23 GMT -7
Karma is a wonderful thing and Robin and I are dealing with issues as well. Just be true to your own heart and Karma will do the rest!  Good Luck brother. Mike |
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Post by mustang1989 on Oct 18, 2016 7:26:15 GMT -7
I'm going to tell you something that you probably already know but we all need a reminder sometimes(and this does include me) so listen carefully. First off , I'm a TRUE BELIEVER in what goes around ............comes around so rest assured that these folks are going to get what's coming to them sooner.............or later. Secondly , it's important that in times like this we keep on doing the next right thing. Things................good or bad have a funny way of catching up to us. I've been on both sides of that fence to qualify myself for this response. As of the last few years I try to be the best I can be, but I've been an ***hole in the past and I can tell you, it doesn't work out too good. Hang in there and don't worry because you sound like you're doing what's right and with that my friend..........you can lay your head down on a pillow and get a good nights sleep.  |
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Post by CoyoteCrunch on Oct 18, 2016 11:20:19 GMT -7
Dammit - this pisses me off to no end for you my friend. I personally know what you do for your gran, and for the family to do this without even consulting you, that truly bites man.
I know what you mean about karma, and I agree with mustang - karma is real, and it does work. I as well was a rough and not so great of a person when I was younger. I feel I have gotten back what I deserved, and now try to do what is right. That would be my advice for you, continue to do what is right. Sure, maybe the others got you this time, but this is just a battle. You, my friend, will win the war!
Just remember, it is only for a short spell, try to explain to your gran that everyone is thinking of her, and is just looking into possible future options, that would be in her best interest. Honestly, my wife's Mom, in the last couple years, we could not have handled it, and we did need a nursing home for her. In time, your gran may need the same kind of care, so look at this as a trial run if you will. You never know, she may just have some fun in a different environment. Tell her it is, in a way, an all inclusive getaway for her as well. And really emphasize the fact she is not going away forever, she IS coming home. This is just a small vacation from the house if you will, just so she can see and experience some new and different places and people.
If I know you, you will make those bus trips, and you will persevere, for you a strong person.
You stand up for those who cannot, and to me, that makes you a hero in my book mate!!
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Post by warmachine on Oct 18, 2016 12:23:00 GMT -7
does piss me off did the same for my granny to she lived her life to 99 and a 1/2 doing what she wanted and how ever but family desided to place her in a retirement home 6 months later she was gone f**kers 8 kids and the ones that would help shouldnt have been due to nearly being cripped but les here's what you do get a lawyer get a power of attorney for your gran then they can't do jack or have say but you would sorry to drop stress les no idea why i am i havent spoken to any of them since or wifes dad either he's another sorry one sorry man i vented but i know what you feel like les
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Post by AK on Oct 18, 2016 17:51:56 GMT -7
Sorry to hear of this Les. Sadly there are too many people today who simply don't care about anyone but themselves. Karma will get to them for sure! In the mean time, do what you can as best you can and don't stress yourself out in the process.
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Post by Big D on Oct 18, 2016 20:33:06 GMT -7
I've been through this. I also know how you take care of your mom and your gran. The other family members also knew and, obviously, that's why they went behind your back. They knew you would interfere and not let it happen. Family can hurt you worse than so-called friends many times. "That which you sow so shall you reap" is a spiritual law that works for sinner or saint. You can't do this to people and get away with it. If you do good and show love you will get good and love back. If you hurt and show hate, guess what.............. Stay strong Les and be there for her when she comes home and it will get better.
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Post by stitchdup on Oct 19, 2016 1:42:08 GMT -7
Cheers guys, I've told them that if they want it to happen, then they have to tell her
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Post by warmachine on Oct 19, 2016 1:47:22 GMT -7
don't doubt she may tell them something to
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Post by warmachine on Oct 19, 2016 1:48:18 GMT -7
like some very colorful frazes sorry les
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Post by Big D on Oct 29, 2016 12:05:40 GMT -7
Les, has gran come home yet? How is she doing?
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Post by stitchdup on Oct 29, 2016 12:37:41 GMT -7
Les, has gran come home yet? How is she doing? She gets home next week mate, she seems to be doing ok but she managed to have a fall a couple of nights ago so added some more bruises to her collection but she's pretty tough so nothing to really worry about. |
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Post by warmachine on Oct 30, 2016 5:12:59 GMT -7
glad your grans ok and coming back home les she sound's like a fairly formitable person hope everything else is ok to man
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